Need ≠ Preference
You can’t negotiate with a need. This raw conversation shows what happens when you ignore it—and how to reconnect. A shift in perspective that might change you.
— Jutta
A dialogue from an ALIEN perspective
Dialogue A/B – Homo Sapiens Confusius
What you’re about to read is not a story.
It’s a conversation.
Between two aliens.
A has just returned from Earth
B is asking questions
Try it.
Drop your human filters.
Look at humanity like it’s your first contact.
Only then you might start to see the contradictions you stopped noticing. The self-sabotage you’ve normalized.
The simple truth that’s hardest to live with:
The forgotten need
It’s not a luxury.
Not a mindset.
Not a phase.
If you don’t meet your need directly,
it will find its way in sideways.
Distorted. Disguised. Manipulating.
And that’s the real danger.
What I call Homo sapiens confusius
has unlearned how to feel need.
Or rather:
They’ve learned to suppress it in order to survive, to be accepted.
Obedience over feeling.
Performance over presence.
What follows is not fiction.
Not theory.
Just transmission.
Two voices.
Maybe yours too.
Dialogue A/B – Homo sapiens confusius
(No setting. No bodies. No scene. Just raw exchange.)
Don’t expect a movie
Don’t expect a metaphor
Just data
If you want a film, project it yourself 🤪
[A]
Back from Earth.
Homo sapiens confusius.
Confusing. Painful. Beautiful.
Utterly illogical.
[B]
Illogical how?
[A]
They need connection. Freedom. Truth.
But they block themselves.
[B]
With what?
[A]
With fear. Shame. Guilt.
Moral codes. Inner scripts.
They learned early: needing is dangerous.
It makes you dependent, exposed, unstable.
Need means weakness.
So they suppress it — even though that never works.
Needs don’t go away.
They’re not negotiable.
They don’t wait.
Instead of saying what they need, they stay silent.
Hoping someone will notice.
The forgotten need
[B]
Where does this come from?
[A]
As children, they learned:
If you show need, you might be rejected.
So they shut it down — to survive.
Until they forget what it even feels like.
[B]
And now?
[A]
Now they just feel… discomfort.
An inner itch. A hollow ache.
But they can’t name it.
So they guess.
They eat — without hunger.
Drink — without thirst.
Swipe. Binge. Scroll.
To silence something they no longer understand.
When the signal gets blocked
[B]
What happens then?
[A]
The impulse hits resistance.
Not from outside — from within.
Imagine a current trying to move through the body —
but there’s a block.
Like electricity in a bent wire.
[B]
It stops?
[A]
It builds up.
Sometimes explodes. More often implodes.
They call it:
Burnout. Depression. Numbness. Helplessness.
Or simply:
“I don’t know what’s wrong with me.”
They’ve lost connection.
Forgotten their body’s signals.
Unplugged from their own need.
The indirect game
[B]
So how do they express their needs?
[A]
Indirectly.
Vaguely.
Tied to conditions.
Always hoping the other person just gets it.
For example:
They give —
but expect something back.
They help —
and hope for gratitude.
They touch —
but secretly want to be held.
Sometimes they push people away —
just to feel closeness snap back.
[A]
There was this moment.
A human was asked:
“How are you?”
And for a split second, they lit up.
As if someone finally cared.
Like: Yes, finally someone sees me.
But then —
they realized it was just protocol.
So they smiled.
Said: “I’m good, thanks. And you?”
And buried their truth again.
[B]
Why not answer honestly?
[A]
Because no one expected an answer.
They just expected the smile.
[B]
Why not just say what they need?
[A]
Because they’ve learned:
To be honest is to risk pain.
Rejection. Embarrassment. Abandonment.
So they send disguised signals.
Wrapped in sacrifice.
Framed as kindness.
But it’s still a deal.
Unspoken.
And if the other doesn’t respond — disappointment.
Expectation built on hidden hope
crashes against real silence.
Tribal rules, silent contracts
[B]
Sounds like a hidden contract.
[A]
Exactly.
Social code: “I give, so you owe.”
But no one says it out loud.
And when it breaks?
They feel betrayed.
But they never made the rules visible.
The trade-off: pain now or later
[B]
Why endure this?
[A]
Because the short pain of honesty
feels more terrifying
than the long pain of self-denial.
What they really need
[B]
What would help?
[A]
First: admit what they actually need.
Second: allow the discomfort that comes with that.
Third: ask for it — clearly.
Without detour. Without disguise.
[B]
That simple?
[A]
Simple.
Not easy.
Is there hope?
[B]
Is there hope?
[A]
Yes.
Some are waking up.
They no longer ask:
“What do I want?”
They ask:
“Why don’t I allow myself to need it?”
Final transmission
[B]
Last thought?
[A]
The cage isn’t real.
It’s built from fear —
and outdated decisions never questioned.
[B]
And now?
[A]
Courage.
Walk through the gap.
Where it hurts.
That’s where it begins:
Freedom 💓
Congratulations!!!
Chances are, this text left you
as Homo sapiens confusius 🤯
It was never meant to comfort you.
It’s a shit disturber.
A direct hit on the survival strategy of Homo sapiens confusius.
Your mind is still trying to protect you –from something you might soon feel.
Give it time.
Let it digest the weight.
Wait.
Until the mud settles.
Then look again.
If you dare 😇